Thinking about things I don’t understand…

“We don’t need to know the answers
To hope and pray for peace
And each by what he can
To make us all complete”

Things I Don’t Understand, Renaissance, 1974 (written by Michael Dunford/Jim McCarty

Yes, I’m grappling with another ear worm – fortunately I like both the song and the artist, so we’re good.  And I do spend a lot of time thinking about things I don’t understand (and a few that I wish I didn’t).

Have a peaceful weekend (and enjoy the song).


Hubble’s image of NGC 362 Globular Star Cluster borrowed from

Tuesday’s Quotes – April 25, 2017 – Connections

“The deeper we look into nature, the more we recognize that it is full of life, and the more profoundly we know that all life is a secret and that we are united with all life that is in nature. Man can no longer live his life for himself alone. We realize that all life is valuable and that we are united to all this life. From this knowledge comes our spiritual relationship with the universe.”  — Albert Schweitzer

Something we need to remind ourselves of from time to time.

Autumn in the Hudson Valley.


When nerds unite

I’m deeply introverted with a profound need for a large buffer of personal space, but I had the good fortune to spend my day on Saturday at the March for Science in Washington, D.C. with several thousand other people – although rainy and not particularly warm, the vibe was overwhelmingly positive. Will it accomplish anything? Time will tell. And like all things, it will require continuing effort to keep the momentum going. But, to those who refer to it as a protest – it very much wasn’t – it was a promotion of science, critical thinking, evidence based policy making. Political? Perhaps – but scientific research often relies on public funding for public benefit, and public health, and environmental, policies are science based – politics cannot be ignored. And unfortunately, we have a entered a disturbing time where neither our legislative or executive branches seem to have much respect for, or use for science. Were some of the signs overtly political? Yes, but definitely not the majority. The speakers included a mix of Earth Day activism, but the message was overwhelmingly pro-science and pro-critical thinking.

It is critical to the planet, to other species, and to us humans that our long national descent into willful ignorance reaches its end. Honestly, this march was long-overdue. We have long been descending into the abyss, and something should have been done by those most qualified years ago. Perhaps that would have preventive things from reaching this point. Hopefully, this will serve as a wake-up call that we can’t sit around waiting for someone else to fix things. That the scientific conclusions cannot be left to speak for themselves when people, especially those responsible for policy, are actively refusing to to consider those conclusions as valid because the conclusions run counter to what they want them to be.

On Earth Day, even as the EPA is being gutted and environmental protections being rolled back, President Trump issued an Earth Day message that proclaimed his commitment to protect the environment despite quite a bit of evidence to the contrary, and stated that economic growth is beneficial to the environment. Even Richard Nixon was pragmatic enough to recognize that environmental regulation is necessary, and a number of businesses agree. Personally, I do not want to see a return to the pre-EPA state of the environment, and yet that is the path the we are heading down as a nation. The high levels of lead in the water in Flint are a direct consequence of letting politics and economics rule over environmental concerns.

It is past time to act, but hopefully it is not too late.

“You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” — Jane Goodall

Here are a few of the pictures that I took at the march.


Happy Earth Day

“Here is your country. Cherish these natural wonders, cherish the natural resources, cherish the history and romance as a sacred heritage, for your children and your children’s children. Do not let selfish men or greedy interests skin your country of its beauty, its riches or its romance.”

— Theodore Roosevelt


Photo courtesy of NASA –


Thoughts on Compassion and the Dying

I’ve been giving a great deal of thought to death, and the process of dying, recently. Not in any sort of morbid, depressing way, but because death is, quite basically, a part of life –  and as we age, as our families and friends age, and as disease strikes, we are often left floundering when confronted with the inevitability of death. We don’t know what to say, what to do. Quite simply we don’t know how we are supposed to act.

Those of you that read my blog semi-regularly know that my, still mentally alert, nonagenarian mother-in-law passed away last year, after a year of her body slowly failing. We all knew the end was coming, and she had long accepted it (welcomed it, even). Time spent with her in the last year, and also in the preceding years, was primarily for sharing happy memories and sharing our lives and those of our children (and in some cases, their children). Although not a terminal illness, the realities of living to a very old age allowed for mentally preparing for what would come – and it allowed us all to enjoy the time we had left together.

Age combined with natural causes is ‘normal’ – on some level all of us realize that our time is finite – our bodies will eventually give out. There are even theories that we all have our own unique, genetic, ‘expiration dates’, as it were, even though we do not know how to decode them. But terminal illnesses, especially when they strike well before advanced old age, are far more complicated for us to process. With three recent cancer-related deaths of friends – one my age, one younger, one older – I’ve been doing a bit of processing myself.

In her groundbreaking 1969 book, On Death and Dying, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross first laid out the 5 Stages of Grief. She posited that people commonly experienced most of these stages when confronted by a terminal diagnosis – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. This process is now widely accepted to also be experienced by those coping with the loss of a loved one, or other types of grief. And we do begin the grieving process with the diagnosis that the end is near. Although part of our own grieving may be the hunt for the often elusive ‘closure’.

The concept of closure, from an overly-broad psychological perspective, is defined by the degree to which an individual avoids ambiguity and needs well-defined – and clear – outcomes. There is even a scale used to determine an individual’s need for cognitive closure. In recent years, however, there has been a ‘pop psychology’ type of belief which promotes closure as something that is needed, and to be expected, when endings come. Always. But perhaps it shouldn’t always be. I was surprised several years ago when a coworker’s spouse unexpectedly died during a chemotherapy session, and he mentioned to me when he returned to work that it was the lack of closure that he was having trouble dealing with – the things left unsettled and unsaid. And I understood, sudden death is always very hard – we are never prepared – but what surprised me was that he contrasted that with the death of his nonagenarian father. His father had slowly ebbed away over a two week period, and during that time, my coworker felt that he was able to resolve things with his father, and in that respect he was ready to accept his death. That notion always disturbed me a bit – surely the compassionate thing to do is not to look for resolutions to your own inner issues from someone grappling with the far more traumatic knowledge of their own imminent demise? I recognize that part of coming to terms with imminent death for some people may be by seeking closure with those closest to them, but that decision should be theirs to make.

Shortly before my third friend was diagnosed (his was a late diagnosis and a very rapid decline), I came across an article on Next Avenue that discussed the same subject with much the same conclusion – it is better to appreciate the bonds that tie you together and love that you share, than to try to clear any historical grievances. Few people really achieve the magical clearing of the air that they are looking for, and really, isn’t the important part trying to ease the worry that the one that is dying has for those about to be left behind? My own experience has been that telling stories when they are unable to talk much, letting them direct the conversation when they are, is a much better, and kinder thing to do. Saying a final good-by is never easy, but when we have the opportunity, we should use it selflessly.

“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”
― Elisabeth Kübler-Ross


Tuesday’s Quotes – April 18, 2017

“Music in the soul can be heard by the universe.”
― Lao Tzu

One of the happiest thoughts I know.

If you open yourselves up, you can hear the symphony – Enjoy!

Image from  “The super star cluster Westerlund 1, only 15,000 light-years away in our Milky Way neighborhood, hosts one of the largest stars ever discovered.”