“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
— Lao Tzu
Always hard advice to follow, but important, nonetheless.
My elder daughter is currently in the air and on her way to her new job, and new life, in Kumamoto city, Japan. It is never easy watching them fly – metaphorically, or physically – but it is all a part of life. We raise our children, educate them, and send them off to find their own bliss, or fortune, or possibly both. In this case, it was somewhat easier – because she studied for a year in Japan, and has only been home a year , but also harder – because it is very likely that the next time she returns home, “home” will have moved to another part of the country. And because, it will probably be 18 months or so before we can manage the trip to visit her. But she is where she wants to be – and ultimately that is what’s important. Everything else will sort itself out in one fashion or another.
And with my daughter’s departure today, I thought it would be a good time to share, once again, this poem from Kahlil Gibran:
“Your children are not your children.
They are sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness.
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable.”